According to them, many young and working couples in India are now getting hooked on to smartphones and tablets, even in the bedroom, and this is having a paralysing effect on their sex lives.
Digital intimacy, it would seem, has diluted the physical connection between sexually active partners.
“There has been a sudden surge in young couples, especially working professionals, who come to me for consultations after facing weak sexual desire owing to social media addiction that gobbles up night hours,” says Dr Prakash Kothari, the nation’s leading sexologist based in Mumbai.
Kothari told IANS that at present he is counselling 20 young couples “who blame late-night social media snacking for their low sex drive.” Kothari is the founder professor of the departments of sexual medicine at KEM Hospital and Seth GS Medical College, both in Mumbai.
“Carrying work home and continuous use of smartphone while you are with your partner hinder communication and relationship,” says Samir Parikh, director of mental health and behavioral sciences at Fortis Hospital, New Delhi.
He says that for a healthy sexual relationship, a couple needs to spend more time together “where there is a feeling of undivided attention, sharing and togetherness”.
Parikh too is dealing with several young couples who blame social media for their subdued sex life.
A recent study by Oxford University of 24,000 married European couples found that the more they read about other people’s exciting lives on social media, the more likely they were to view their own with disappointment, leading to a poorer sex life.
According to Kothari, the sexual process has four components: Desire, sexual grounding (how one perceives the stimuli), arousal (whether it leads to lubrication) and finally, orgasm.
Dr Jyoti Kapoor Madaan, senior consultant (psychiatry) at Paras Hospitals in Gurgaon, noted that there is an upsurge of young professionals with low sex drive but they do not always attribute it to the use of smartphones or other gadgets.
“Most people are not even aware that excessive use of social media is causing problems in their relationships, even their bedroom life,” she said.
The mantra: limit use of social media at night to reclaim your sex life.
POOR SEX LIFE AMONG OUR YOUTH...BLAME THE SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION