Having a marriage that is on rocks?? Going through a really bad phase with your husband? We all go through such situations once in life (if you haven’t, we hope you never do.) Before you give up on the marriage or start to tread on the wrong path, just sit back, relax and put yourself together and think…This is your marriage; this man was the only one you wanted to be with once upon a time! Either it had to be him or no one. Then how and why have things turned sour? He obviously can’t be the only one responsible.
Start identifying with certain behaviors of yours that are worth altering in order to bring harmony in your marriage. In order to make sure your marriage works here are some sure shot and definite ways to bring peace in your marriage:
1) AVOID UNNECESSARY DRAMA
We know we are women and obviously being dramatic is an inherent part of our very being!! Having said that it is very important for you to know when you are over acting and throwing an unnecessary fit. Men like their woman being upfront and clear about what she wants and how she wants it. Remember tantrums look good only on three year olds. Learn to know when the situation demands mature and critical thinking.
2) STRETCHING ISSUES/ARGUMENTS
Obsessing over a fight or an argument is not a good idea at all. Learn to either let go or if that can’t happen talk about it and find a middle ground. The sooner you resolve the issue the better it will be. Remember thinking too much about a fight not only stresses you out but also makes you unstable. All wrong decisions are usually a result of haste and being worked up.
3) AVOID MANIPULATIONS
C’mon women, we create the world and we don’t need to manipulate with the ones we live or choose to be with. Manipulating once in a while just for all good reasons can be totally accepted but always remember in a relationship where you have invested not only your trust but emotions too, ugly manipulations will only make your bond grow weaker. Don’t let him loose his faith on you by doing things in a marriage that you need to manipulate about.
4) STOP AVOIDING
Be it a small rupture or a big blown out fight with your husband, sitting down and talking about it is of paramount importance. Discussing how you two can make peace with each other is the best possible way to make sure that ‘all is well’ in your love relationship. Avoiding to talk, discuss about an argument or a fight will only cause you and your relationship a smelly, messy and filthy pile of drama.
5) DON’T SLEEP OVER FIGHTS
The last and most important ingredient for a harmonious marriage is not sleeping over a fight. Make sure the day you guys have friction or differences, they should be resolved that very day before you switch yourself off for the next day. Making him realise that making up to him is top most in your priority list will not only make him happier but will also bring in stability and mutual respect towards each other.
p.s( By this article we don’t mean that only women need to put in all efforts to make their marriage work..We are firm believers of egalitarian relationships; both man and woman play an equal and important part in making their marriage work!! We hope we can change lives of some and lastly wishing all of you a happy married life with little hiccups. )