When I started to work after my first baby was born, I had a bag of mixed emotions… I felt guilty, anxious and excited at the same time. Guilty because I’d fallen in love with my bundle of joy and wanted to spend all my time with her.
Excited because I’d be able to get back to work and do what I always wanted to do and anxious because I was clogged with thoughts of how my baby would manage without my being around. I never wanted my baby’s upbringing to be affected by my desire of being financially productive.
Having said that I gathered the guts to talk to my ‘not so friendly boss’ and me and a couple of juggling mums like me finally convinced him to get our babies to work with us and put them in the day care that the office had set up just for us.
We would take in between breaks to either feed them, change them and simply be around them. Initially it was really hard on me and my little girl but we slowly coped up and soon we became so comfortable that I could actually see the glee in my daughter’s eyes every time I dressed her up in the mornings.
As she grew a little more and started to understand her surroundings well and notice things, helping her pass her day with constructive and entertaining activities became very important, because she would every now and then fiddle with things and waste her energy in all wrong activities. So the big challenge had started for me now. Here is my list of do’s and don’ts that came very handy for me and some I learnt with my personal experience
1) OBSERVE what your child enjoys doing the most when she/he is left in an exploring environment.
2) Make sure you CHANNELISE their energies in making them do entertaining yet educating activities.
3) Teach your child the IMPORTANCE OF BEING SOCIAL when she/he is around other kids in the day care.
4) Ask the care taker to give you a DETAILED ACCOUNT of what your child did all day. This is of vital importance. Not only will the care taker be extra careful with your precious one but will also be more vigilant about any abnormal behaviors your child displays.
5) Make sure you PLAN OUT the day for your child and engage him/her in all the activities that the company organizes for kids.
6) This one tops my list in terms of importance, make sure you TALK TO YOUR CHILD and BE AWARE of everything your baby is doing at the day care. You don’t want your tiny one to come in contact with any unpleasant experience.
1) Don’t place your child in a potentially UNSAFE environment or LOSE TRACK of them. Be specific about where you want them to be and what’s expected of them.
2) Don’t IGNORE your kids, even if you’re especially busy.
3) Don’t just have your child SHADOW you and not go to anyone else. Make sure they’re engaged in fruitful and productive activities.
4) Don’t have a BAD ATTITUDE. It’s important to look happy and positive, even if you’re having a bad day at work, don’t let your kids feel it.
5) Don’t EXPECT THE DAY TO GO PERFECTLY, not all days can be the same and smooth. Be hiccups and hurdle ready!! Keep Plan B handy if what you planned earlier fails.
P.s( I hope these tips work for you as much as they worked for me..Remember these beautiful beings are a very important part of our life but not the only part/role we play..So plan your work and career in a way that none of you suffer!! )