If you are only bothered about ‘I, ME, MYSELF’ then you are selfish. Accepting that you are the selfish one in the relationship is just not easy. Having that label on you is not a feather in your cap. So if at all you feel you are self centered, make sure you do everything it takes to change that. Relationship is a two way street, it’s about giving in and taking.
Here are five points that clearly and loudly indicate that you are being selfish in your relationship.
1. EVERYTHING IS PLANNED ACCORDING TO YOU
Be it an dinner outing or blocking dates for a holiday, every time things happen as per your convenience only. Your partners say is not even considered. If you want to go, you guys go. If you can’t go, then the plan fizzles out.
2. YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO CHANGE FOR YOU
If you have a long list of changes you want to make in your partner, then yes you are being very selfish. One or two things here and there are totally acceptable but if you are loving them with the label of “conditions apply” then please stop because its time to change.
3. YOU NEVER APOLOGISE
Saying sorry is the sign of a weak soul is what you think. It is totally below your dignity to keep your big fat ego at bay and try to resolve a fight or an issue. You take it for granted that your partner will come and pacify you even when you know you are at fault.
4. YOU ARE AN EXPERT AT EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
When you see things are not going in your favor, you play your master stroke and start with emotional blackmailing. Manipulating emotionally is a technique best known to selfish people. You would start giving silent tortures or not let your partner come near or close to you. Learn to give in and compromise at times, this will also help your partner to know what you like and what you don’t.
You get totally disinterested and lazy when you are doing things your partner likes and wants to do. You feel restless and bored when you are doing things that excite him. You are all charged up only and only when you are involved in activities and things you want to do. This is so obviously selfish and unfair.
P.s( If you find yourself anywhere in these points, then its about time you pulled up your socks and gave in to your partners demands too…Love means being selfless and not selfish!!)